About Letting Go of Stuff and the Letting Go Pro
Welcome to the Letting Go of Stuff™ Blog.
Letting Go of Stuff™ is about facing the world inside of you using secrets that will allow you to live life to the fullest, based on your definition of what living a full life is. Darren L. Johnson, is a personal coach for anyone who wants to get “good” at letting go of stuff.™ He is also the one who can help you to just – let go, even if you don’t want to get good at it.
On this BLOG we will discuss the concepts and philosophy behind Letting Go of Stuff™ with specific regards to the following areas (and more):
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Personal Development
Leadership – What STUFF interferes with effective leadership
Diversity – Examining Organizational & Societal Cultures
Hello,
As your Letting Go Pro, I am looking forward to our rich, diverse, and open conversations on this BLOG about Letting Go of Stuff.™ – Darren L. Johnson
June 26, 2007 at 3:02 pm |
Looking forward to our dialog.
June 26, 2007 at 4:28 pm |
A lot of people are always talking about what they wish to attain in life. Many of those people don’t realize there are things you may need to let go of in order to do so. The guidance in “Letting Go of Stuff” has been very instrumental in helping people to identify those things that are holding them back. Definitely worth looking into!
June 26, 2007 at 4:47 pm |
Elisha,
Thank you for posting on my new blog. Congratulations! You are the first person to post. Let’s see where it goes from here. And by the way, I agree with you comments that people tend to be in denial about their stuff.
Also, people tend to believe that everyone else’s stuff is much worse that theirs. Although that is sometimes true, it is also much easier to be critical of or to even judge other’s stuff, before taking a look at our own. It feels safer and sometimes allows us to feel better about ourselves when we find fault in others.
Letting Go of Stuff is about loving your self. It is about forgiving the most important person you know – YOU. And a whole lot more.
Thanks again for your comments and being the FIRST to post on my blog.
June 27, 2007 at 11:58 am |
Wow, how fortunate. Your notified us of your blog on the 3 days I’d already labelled Give-a-Palooza 2007. Outside is a U-Haul Van, and yes, the storage area here at the residence and the rented one nearby, which serve for my home and home-based business, are getting emptied out and sorted out. There will be lots to share in great condition. Because lots is unused.
Buying stuff and hoarding it is said to signify many things. One of the more salient ones for me is a lack of confidence in one’s own ability to be self-supporting and a lack of belief in the infinite supply that comes from the Divine. And clutter is something to hide behind, and a reason to stay stuck.
So of course I’ve procrastinated about getting started each of these mornings. No matter. I’ll just work later…and keep focused on the expectation of lightness, freedom and joy that I will know for the first time in a long time, tomorrow night! Because that will be “it.” There is no more on the physical plane anywhere.
And I have a very strong suspicion the emotional stuff, for which the physical is a metaphor, is packing and leaving too. I’ve said “Thanks for the lessons. Now out you go.”
Oh yeah, I’m taking pictures. As a reminder of doing something really, really right…..right now.
Thanks for your fine work and your WP blog.
Renee
June 27, 2007 at 3:26 pm |
Renee-thanks for posting.
I hear you. Sounds as though you have your hands full with STUFF. It also sounds as though you are applying the fourth secret to Letting Go of Stuff, which is to have a GREAT attitude.
You said a mouthful when you shared that WE tend to surround ourselves with STUFF, and sometimes it is in an effort to make up for the spiritual aspect of our lives; like filling a void. But the replacement is not nearly as valuable.
Generally speaking, I believe that it is important for us to spend the time taking inventory of our INTERNAL STUFF. This will help to reduce the fear of facing that person we see in the mirror.
In other words, if you want to change something about YOU, that means that you are going to LET GO of that something. But to know what you want to change, you have to first take an inventory of EVERYTHING that is going on inside of you. Then decide from that inventory, what you want to change.
After that acknowledgment, you must then accept what ever it is you want to change, or LET GO.
This is where it begins – for some of us.
June 27, 2007 at 3:27 pm |
e-mail- artherine_hoskins@hotmail.com
Thanks Darren for sending me this site! During this season of Blessings in my life, I need to go back and reread your book! Blessings, Artherrine
June 27, 2007 at 3:41 pm |
Thanks Artherine! I hope you come back and share/disucss what you learn/re-learn in the book. I am sure that others will want to hear about it as well.
March 27, 2008 at 8:48 pm |
I’ve been reading the blog entries and many are filled with gratitude; however, I have a question. How do you let go of the inability to trust your spouse? Especially after infidelity?
May 1, 2008 at 7:07 pm |
Liz.
Trust is something that, in my opinion, after and act of infidelity, must be earned. Now keep in mind, I am going to respond specifically to your statement alone. I won’t get into the possible reasons “why” your spouse may have become an infidel, because that would involve taking at what happened between you two that led up to him going out on you. In other words, at some point you have to ask yourself, “what was lacking in the relationship?” Regardless of what may have been mission, infidelity is NEVER the answer, if you LOVE your spouse, and most importantly, if you love your SELF.
BUT, let me focus on your statement/question of re-developing trust after infidelity. My response is based on the assumption that you are staying in this relationship. Okay?
Now, before you attempt to apply the following steps, let me caution you, and suggest that you have a conversation with someone you trust about applying the steps. Get a perspective from someone you can trust and who truly has your BEST interest at heart.
If you journal, then write about what you may do in your journal. As a matter of fact, share with your journal exactly what you will do, including the conversation and the potential responses. After sharing this with your journal (by writing about it), then let that simmer for a week or so before moving forward.
Finally, before applying the following steps, remember that at some point in this relationship, you really loved, and may were even in love with your spouse. And if you plan to keep this relationship, then your goal is to get back to that place of love – somehow. This means that forgiving this person MUST be part of the process as well. So get ready to do some work in that area as well.
That having been said, try these steps, that are not guaranteed to work, but are merely a suggestion to get you on the right track.
First, you must let your spouse know the impact that act of infidelity had/has on you. One way to do this is to have a face to face conversation. BUT, make sure you are prepared to remain calm and be an adult during that entire conversation. And prepare yourself for the worst response you could ever imagine. That way, you can handle what ever your spouse may say.
If you are the type that does not do well with face to face dialog, then you can write a letter to your spouse. In that letter, simply say what you can’t say in person. Remember to not allow your emotions to dominate either of those communication exchanges.
Second, give yourself time to digest that experience, and to process the response/conversation that results from your effort to communicate about how you feel. It is not a bad idea to spend a couple of nights apart after you have that initial conversation or give him your letter to read. That may allow both of you to develop a different perspective.
Third, go through the process of forgiveness outlined in my book, Letting Go of Stuff. It will be helpful for you to work through the pain, anger, and hurt you may be experiencing. Remember, it is okay for you to be angry and hurt. You have a right to your feelings. But also know that if you choose to hold on to them, then it can interfere with your ability to move forward in this relationship and enjoy what ever future you have with this person.
Fourth, remember that you also had a role in this act of infidelity. Obviously not directly, but you have to examine what role you had that may have led your spouse to want to go outside the relationship. What was your role, if you play one at all?
Fifth, give yourself time to heal after all of this. You deserve that time and you truly need to take it. Be open and honest with your spouse about where you are right now with regards to your feelings, your impression of him, and your thoughts about the future.
Sixth, if you want this relationship, keep in mind that you must get back to the love that brought you together in the first place. That is important.
NOW, these steps are not by any means a cure all. They are just designed to get you on the path of moving beyond your current situation.
I wish you the very best as you let go of this and move toward your goal of a successful and happy relationship with your spouse.
Until Next Time…
Darren L. Johnson
Letting Go Pro
February 15, 2009 at 3:12 am |
Hello.
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April 28, 2009 at 7:02 pm |
Hi. Thanks for checking in on the forum for Letting Go of Stuff. We are getting ready to ramp it up again. So stay tuned and check it out on Twitter as well. The link is http://twitter.com/lettinggopro.com.
Take good care.
April 4, 2009 at 4:00 pm |
I spent all afternoon listening to your podcast and when you spoke about being in a relationship all by yourself I couldn’t help but to shout amen. That truly is the worst felling. Thank you so much your for wonderful advice.
April 28, 2009 at 7:03 pm |
Hi. Thanks for checking in on the forum for Letting Go of Stuff. We are getting ready to ramp it up again. So stay tuned and check it out on Twitter as well. The link is http://twitter.com/lettinggopro.com.
Be sure that you share this BLOG and the twitter link with others in your circle.
Thanks.
May 13, 2009 at 4:03 pm |
Hi AE. Thanks for listening to the podcast at http://www.DarrenLJohnsonShow.com. I am glad it helped.
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May 13, 2009 at 4:05 pm |
Thank you for your comment. I believe it is important to make a contribution, not only to the community, but to our selves. More of us need to be willing to deal with the person in the mirror, without fear of the outcome.
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June 14, 2009 at 8:07 am |
Those of you that know me from the other forums, remember that I used to have some pretty severe self esteem issues because of health problems. Well now I am doing much better, out of therapy, and looking forward to returning to life, blogging, posting online and getting back to normal. I appreciate everyone’s support through these tough times.
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June 15, 2009 at 10:59 pm |
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